You and I need to comprehend the stuff to be cheerful we need to comprehend what is our present diagram of how our life should be presently what do I mean by outline well we have a story in our mind of how life should be a few people's story is you buckle down in school you turn out to be extremely extraordinary you're a decent individual you're a decent individual and afterward you grow up and you deal with yourself and you locate the perfect man and you begin to look all starry eyed at you have a white picket fence and you have three impeccable youngsters and you live joyfully ever after another person's story the old story was you buckle down in school you exceed expectations in school you're going to work for a major organization and you climb through the positions until you're the President or executive of the organization and you end up fruitful regarded all through life these are some old stories clearly the accounts that we hear today of what individuals' lives should resemble are totally various we never again have these little originals yet when our sort still appears to remain that model is with the end goal for you to truly feel like you're sufficient numerous individuals trust they need to accomplish a gigantic sum they may do it in various ways they may do it by building an organization and taking an open when they're 27 or 25 years of age or you realize they find and make another innovation or they turn into an exceptionally uncommon specialist yet we live in a culture in the West that instructs individuals that you're insufficient except if you accomplish something extremely exceptional and novel and we characterize exceptional and one of a kind and fascinating ways a teacher isn't exceptional and one of a kind a mother who remains home with her kids day and night chiseling their brains their bodies their spirits and their future isn't unique we live in a present reality where we treat educators like they're no one and pay them as needs be we wonder why our kids appear to have difficulties of learning and becoming or being occupied with school we burn through a large number of dollars on some thing like a PC however what we take a gander at by and large we put resources into for the instructor and for that individual is the individual association with them is so little we live in a general public where numerous ladies look down and state well you're only a housewife you're only a mother see a portion of the torment we have in our general public isn't on the grounds that there's one right or one wrong methodology but since we attempt to make everyone fit into some specific way to deal with life this is what's going to fulfill you or make you miserable in life it's genuine straightforward how about we complete a speedy test in case you're in a circumstance right now where you take a gander at your life I know there's an aspect of your life that you'd most likely feel beautiful darn great about regardless of whether you're not content with your funds I wager you feel damn great near your children or in case you're not near your children possibly you don't have any children perhaps you feel great about your profession in case you're doing not very great in your vocation possibly you got an extremely extraordinary body that you've cut down or fortified up or you know you truly molded yourself the manner in which you need stoutly or in the manner in which you look or if that is not happening made me feel extremely exceptional association with God we're truly near your mom or father your family whatever nearly everyone has a part of their life in case you're great about it they're straightforward in the event that they're reasonable for themselves what's any of your life you truly feel glad about I need you think about it for a minute honestly what's a territory in your life today that on the off chance that you needed to be upbeat about it you truly could feel pleased about it you could feel like so no you're doing darn well in and in case you're extremely hard on yourself there's as yet a region what's a region I need you to consider it at this moment so once you think about that zone whether it's your body or your accounts or your vocation or your cozy relationship or your association with your children your association with your Maker whatever it is I need you to think concerning for what reason are you content with that demeanor of your life right now today for what reason are you content with that aspect of your life right now today I truly think about in case you're in a course with Matt have you record this on the off chance that you would you be able to can put me on hold here for a second since I'd like to uncover to you what the recipe is for satisfaction and on the off chance that I state there's an equation for bliss and this is what it is you're going to go no doubt no doubt beyond any doubt that is the thing that he says yet on the off chance that you put down the appropriate response and we can see the equations genuine without me disclosing to you what it is you get the chance to take a gander at your very own life and state it matches you're going to realize this is correct so you could stop this at the present time on the off chance that you need put me on hold and simply record what's an aspect of your life you're super cheerful about you're truly satisfied with or you could be in the event that you needed to concentrate on it and for what reason are you content with that piece of your life right currently regardless of whether you're not content with everything what's the year you're content with and why put me on hold at the present time or you're not going to do that simply think for a minute why explicit be genuine why now when I inquired as to whether you walked out on now on the off chance that I solicit this from a crowd of people I'll have individuals record this for a couple of minutes and I'll bring in individuals I'll state share with an individual alongside you first what do you have you're not for what reason are you glad around there and be explicit I must be share how individuals stand up I'll bring in an assortment of individuals and I state hello I'm revealing to me what are you upbeat about she'll state well sincerely I'm extremely content with my body she does I never thought I'd state that yet I used to be so discontent with it and you know I at long last I did a few things I propel myself through and now I practice normally I mean I'm not flawless but rather I feel fit I feel solid I feel vigorous and that is truly I don't have any acquaintance with it just feels great to me now I say everyone I'm currently going to demonstrate to you what the structure in the misrepresentation business is and it's genuine basic I need to uncover it to you so you absolutely always remember it at whatever point you're content with a mind-blowing part this is on the grounds that correct now your present educational experience I consider it your LC your life conditions a mind-blowing states your life conditions here match or equivalent to your plan your story your conviction about how life ought to be here so this lady says to me I'm truly joyfully my body since it's not immaculate her plan is I don't should be immaculate yet it's such a great amount of superior to anything it was I'm fit and I'm solid and I have this vitality her psychological plan says I ought to be fit solid and have vitality I don't should be flawless yet I ought to be that route well in my life my body coordinates how I figure it ought to be I like my life well that is another person I'll state you know let me know there you're content with another person to state well I'm extremely content with my vocation and why well I'm improving the situation than I even idea I would be I mean I'm in front of the timetable of where I trusted I'd be at this stage I'm working at this dimension in this organization and I have these aptitudes and this capacity and it's far better than I thought well indeed listen this individual is content with this aspect of their life on the grounds that their present life conditions in the zone called their vocation are surprisingly better than they expected they would be superior to anything their plan superior to anything their conviction about how it ought to be he what's truly better you will in general be elated yet one lady would state you know I sort of disclose to you I said I'm the glad he's at any point been in as long as I can remember why she goes on the grounds that I have this man in my life and I'm enamored with him and he adores me and I can act naturally with him and he we have this unimaginable closeness and this enthusiasm and we need to be with one another constantly and I never get exhausted with him well what's her diagram you need to be with someone that you could have all out closeness with someone who you cherish and adores you those are a piece of her standards her convictions of how it should be she said you know it should be I never need to be with any other person I need to be with him each minute her plan about how life ought to be and the manner in which she experience her connections far superior to she trusted when it's superior to anything you trust you're going to be completely energized so think about this at that point what's a region you're not content with we should check whether we can discover the recipe for despondency if the equation for joy is to almost certainly live up to your desires or surpass them that we truly ensure energized yet to be upbeat in any event Mita doesn't need to be flawless yet on the off chance that you by and large are meeting what you expect you need from your life here feel great right conditions coordinate diagram feel better so what makes you feel awful or makes torment pressure disappointment minimal simple approach to make sense of it answer this inquiry what's an everyday issue you're not content with given me a chance to be straightforward with yourself and regardless of whether your life is incredible a wide range of ways I'm certain there's a zone you'd like to enhance anyone who's straightforward on the off chance that they're doing extraordinary in their vocation all the time don't deal with their bodies so much on the off chance that they're truly centered around their body you know all the time they end up in a position where they're not investing enough energy with their children or in the event that they're investing time with their children their private connections not doing as such well since it's the idea of people to concentrate on regions they feel good with and solid in and give those time and the zones they don't feel so solid and they go I don't possess energy for it what do you truly state folks I don't feel skillful that zone so what's a part of your life that you are not as content with I mean it's sound sincerely to take a gander at regions and state I don't care for it I need more this entire idea of a leap forward is about how would I close the hole between where I am at this moment and that is what we're here to do resembles this is what I need to be here's the place I am it's beneficial to see there's a hole that influences me to have this appetite this drive to develop to feel invigorated to extend as an individual so what's a region you're not satisfied with is it your body is it your funds is